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Protect Your Peace – Banish Them!

By Lady Saoirse

Bright Blessings,

Quite often, we talk about banishing negativity and bringing in positive energy to our lives but we don’t always talk about banishing negative people. Sometimes, your family, your best friend, or even your significant other is just being downright negative. The thought of being without these people temporarily, let alone permanently, might be unbearable. However, sometimes if you want to live a peaceful existence, people give you no choice.

When we love people, they expect us to put up with them no matter what. We all know somebody who has the patience to do that. Not everybody does, most especially when people who are behaving in horrible ways throw our lives out of balance. We can always hope that talking it out can solve problems and our loved ones will stop making us miserable but what happens when that doesn’t work? Then you have a decision to make.

You can tolerate things. You can allow friends, family, or roommates to live in your home and disrupt your life if you want to. You can remain in a toxic relationship with your significant other if you want to. You can tolerate the terrible behavior of family if you want to. Some people stick around no matter how bad things get just because they don’t want to be without the people they love.

Not everybody chooses to do that. If you have tried to work things out and behaviors won’t stop, you might decide to step away or send someone away. That is not easy to do. The closer you are to someone and the longer you’ve been in a relationship with them, the more it’s going to hurt. If you have kids together, if you have mutual friends, or if you’re a member of the same family, seeing someone after you tell them you don’t want them in your life might be uncomfortable. A fight might happen each time you see each other. Things like this are part of the reason why a lot of people stick around no matter how bad things are. You don’t necessarily have to do that.

People come around for a reason. If you prove to them that they’re not going to get what they come for, they will find it elsewhere. So, if somebody harasses you for money and you don’t give it to them, eventually, they’re going to have to move on and beg somebody else for money. If your ex is constantly asking for sex and you don’t want them to do that anymore, just refuse sex until they finally go away. If you have a family member who deliberately discusses politics at every family gathering and an attempt to get a reaction from you, don’t talk to them about it or just don’t react and pretty soon they’ll nag somebody else. Sometimes, this isn’t enough. Sometimes, you needs somebody out of your life entirely. How do you do that?

You use magic.

Start with a simple conversation. Tell the person that you are breaking things off and that you’re not going to change your mind. You can tell them why, but you don’t have to. It’s up to you. Just be prepared that they might ask you not to do that and they might even promise to change. If you’ve really decided that things are over, stick to your guns and walk away. There are some people who don’t want to be in a relationship with somebody who doesn’t want them around, and out of self-respect they will step away. Makes things easy doesn’t it? Not everybody is cooperative. If they’re not, try the following.

First, you can block all contact with them. This includes social media, telephone, and speaking in person. This sends the message home for some people but other people are more persistent. Block them and get a restraining order if you have to. Tell them “no” every time they approach you in person or walk away and ignore them. If this doesn’t work and they keep coming around and talking to you, use a little sympathetic magic.

Get something that represents you and something that represents them. Make sure the thing that represents them can be burned. A picture of them or their name written on a piece of paper works. Get a red cord and wrap the image of them up within itself and bind it with the red cord the whole time telling them that you want them to go away leave you alone and stay out of your life for good. Put the image that represents you on your altar or someplace safe and then leave the house with the representation of this other person. Take it outside to the back garden or to a park somewhere and burn it releasing the ashes to the wind. You are sending them away from you.

Getting somebody to leave you alone can be as simple as asking them to. Sometimes, you need a little help from other people like the authorities and sometimes, you just have to do some good old sympathetic magic and release them, sending them into their future. It’s OK to have to cut people off if it means a better life for you. Just stick to your guns because going back on your magic breaks the spell.

Blessed Be.

Lady Saoirse has studied magic and lore for most of her life but started walking her own magical path after being spiritually reborn in the desert. Today she is a High Priestess for The Temple of the Goddess, she is a psychic advisor and spiritual counselor, she is a member of the spiritual family at the Magical Druid in Ohio, and she shares her gifts as a Psychic and Content Writer for Spiritual Blossom and Mysticsense and she writes for PaganPages.Org emag.

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